The Tired But Selfless Dad
I am challenging all Dads to step up and finish strong. We are being attacked. I Daddy Dog Dare You!
Being a Dad is one of the best things that has ever happened to me.
Just the name DAD has so much resonance.
The name DAD is probably the best thing that can happen in a lifetime. Second to marriage and being a husband, it brings more purpose and fulfillment into the life of a man.
As a man we purposefully pursue the dream of becoming a husband and eventually a Dad. Although we all have our own ways of doing things, being a dad pretty much means the same thing- responsibility, caring, raising of a child, nurturing, provider and many more.
You are the Top Dog- The Daddy Dog
But somewhere along the line life got hard. You grew older and more tired of the day-in and day-out and the daily grind- the chastising boss, and the weary wife and mom of your kids.
Did I mention the crazy kids?
Being a Dad means to carry the burden of all those things. It means toiling over the soil of whatever occupation that you’re into. It means coming home at night, shrugging off the incessant dust and cobwebs of the day, and putting on the face of Dad.
We all need reminders…
You see, they don’t know what you go through. They don’t know that you were tried and tested today. They don’t know that you wonder how it got this way. They don’t know how tough this has gotten for you. Like a dead-end job or how an ensuing financial hardship has you on the brink.
They just see the face of Dad.
But as tough as those hard times are, you are called to be brave, you are called to be strong, and most of all you need to have Faith.
You had your turn as baby, toddler, child, student, husband. But now it’s your turn to be DAD, and their turn to be baby, toddler, child, student, etc.
“It is time to live the life that is expected of a father, and to fulfill the honor of being called a Dad.”
The name Daddy Dog Dare came to me as I was thinking of how to communicate something to all the dads out there. The dads that are so topped off, they feel that they can’t take it anymore.
In one of my prior blog posts, Being Dad In The Storm, I mentioned how tough that life can be at times. And that in life we have to do hard things.
“We know that we have to sail the ship right into the eye of the storm without abandoning ship.”
“You’ll never dare to steer the ship if you never grasp the ship’s wheel.”
It will take all of the courage you can muster. Especially when you don’t know what is waiting on the other side.
All you see are the rocks, all you hear is the crashing of the waves, and all you taste and smell is the salt in the air.
Although your life may be in a state of disorder, there is a beautiful rainbow on the other side just waiting for you and your vessel.
If we as Dad’s will stick with the plotted course before us, we will eventually be rewarded when the storm has passed. But as any sailor knows, he will be on the lookout for the sunshine along the way. That is what makes the journey as Dad worth it all.
Take the Daddy Dog Dare today and commit to it every day.
Getting To The Other Side
Getting to the other side requires humility. The humility that is willing to die for the self and to completely recognize the higher calling that God has for your life.
When things are going smoothly and we achieve that goal or get that job, we usually rely on our self. You did it Dad!
When things get hard, we cry out to God. This is usually the way that it goes. We are creatures of habit.
But what we have failed to do is to completely rely on God in all of our circumstances. Both good and bad. And when fortune and that dream job or goal is attained, we give all honor and praise to our Heavenly Father. We rely on Him for our provision and blessings.
In relying on God during the good and the bad, it prepares us for the storms in life ahead- the faith reserves. We are storing up our harvest getting and ready for the hard days ahead.
But if the hard times come, and there is nothing in the faith tank, enduring the tough journey ahead makes us want to abandon the ship.
This is one of the main reasons that so many Dads are leaving their families today.
It is because the Dad who became so self-reliant fails, he cannot face his failure or his wife and family because he has spent so much time building his own image of Dad.
God never intended for the image of Dad to be a worldly image. He created us to be in His image.
When Jesus walked the earth, He gave us the perfect image to follow. An image of sacrifice, meekness, humility- the life of a servant.
Take the Daddy Dog Dare
As a Dad, we have to start each day this way, the way that Jesus himself lived. Anything other than that will only take our eyes off of Jesus, and instead we will see the rocks, we hear the crashing of the waves, and we taste and feel the salt in the air, we taste fear.
I Daddy Dog Dare you to take the challenge today. If you are tired and spent I ask you to do this: Stop what you are doing, pause the worry and the anxiety. Take on the power of God.
Do not abandon ship, but stand firm in your faith living sacrificially for your wife and your children to show them the true love of a Husband and a Dad. It’s not the money and things in life that they want, all that they want Dad, is you.
Your helplessness in not being able to change your circumstances is getting you nowhere. Only the power of God can do this. The Armor of God…
The Whole Armor of God:
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm. Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace. In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one; and take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God, praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints, and also for me, that words may be given to me in opening my mouth boldly to proclaim the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains, that I may declare it boldly, as I ought to speak. (Ephesians 6:10-20 ESV)