Saving Your Marriage Starts Today
I remember some wise words I received from an older gentleman three days before I was to be married to my beautiful wife Edie.
He knew that I was about to be married and he told me that him and his wife had been married for more than 50 years.
When I asked him what the secret to a long and happy marriage is, he said “Two very simple words. Yes Dear.”
Although we both laughed about it, he was very serious.
He said that when you try your best to keep your wife happy, you in turn will be happy. When the wife is happy, everyone is happy.
I have taken marriage very serious and remain convinced that marriage is work. Not all work, but you have to work at it.
When we received counseling from our pastor, he told us that “If either of you go through marriage with one eye on the exit door, your marriage will not work.” He said that no matter how tough times are or how much you think you married the wrong person, you are married to the one that God gave to you.
My wife and I continue to tell each other that “You are God’s Gift To Me.” It may seem small, but the fact is that it goes a long way back. Eighteen years ago my wife wrote that on a card that she gave to me on the day we were married. I’ll never forget it.
This is something at our core that we embrace together. Our marriage has not been easy. And we have gone through some rough times very recently as I restart my career.
As a husband I keep my wife close to me. I am always working to improve our relationship and although I am not perfect, she knows that I love her.
Marriage is a daily walk. Every day that you work on your marriage are also the days that you are saving your marriage.
I have worked it out with my wife for many years now. We have been through one of the most difficult times in our lives. But we are walking through this together.
Perhaps your marriage is struggling. I hope not. But whether it is or it isn’t, the day to start saving your marriage is today.
Some of the ways that I have served my wife may not be the most luxurious or most creative, but she know it is what I can offer her.
So I thought if I can share some of these on my blog and help one person, then it’s all worth it.
Here are my top ten ways to serve your wife:
- Be the Spiritual Leader– Nothing resonates more with your wife than to know her husband is leading her on her spiritual walk. It is what you were chosen for. It speaks volumes when you read the Bible, study God’s word together, and pray together. Don’t ever stop doing this. You are saving your marriage.
- Regular Date Nights– Nothing more needs to be said here.
- Iron Her Clothes– Yes hubby, you can do it. And not just once, but every time she needs it. She will think something is up.
- Clean the House– You will please her to no end when the house is cleaned and remains picked up. It’s hard at times, but there needs to be some sacrifice here. (You can get the kids to join in the fun.)
- Cook Dinner For Her– Just because you work all day and come home tired, that doesn’t give you an excuse to lie on the couch while she toils in the kitchen. Ever hear of a Crock pot? (I’m trying to help here.)
- Take the Kids Away– One thing a Mom needs most that she doesn’t get enough of, and that is quiet time in the house.
- Make Her Favorite Beverage in the Morning– My wife loves her PG Tips British tea in the morning. I make it for her every morning that she will have it. I am happy to say that I have made her thousands of cups of tea.
- Color Coordinate Her Clothes In the Closet– I know it doesn’t sound like much for a man to do here, but it goes a long way. Remember you are doing this for her, and the harder it is for you to do because of the man that you are, the more she will appreciate it.
- Do the Laundry– When a wife and mom is over worked and under appreciated, no one in the house will be happy. That means you dad.
- Go On Long Walks Together– One of the most important things in marriage is communication. Walking together produces positive feelings and also allows more time for discussion about what’s on your minds and life in general.
This list doesn’t require that you spend money, except perhaps during those important date nights.
Anyone can do these things.
Share what you do to build on your marriage every day.